One literally walks through the Valley of the Shadow of Death, when one loses their spouse.
There is no getting around it.
One can only pretend for so long their spouse is on a business trip. The one morning, after many long sleepless nights, you notice the sun peering in through the window, and reality hits its you square in the face that you are alone in a bed that was bought for two. This is when the fog of grief begins to lift.
Though the pain comes and goes, if we are honest with ourselves, we can actually feel its grip on our entire body loosen just a bit, and we realize, they are gone from this place, but I am still here.
The question, ” Why am I still here?, seems to bring the fog of grief down around you, but this time you feel a tug-of-war, wanting to stay in your cocoon of grief, while at the same time, curious as your mind seems to be igniting with glimmers of understanding that the Faith you have been given has gotten you this far. It is like a light blub is switched on, and you are aware of yourself breathing again without your shoulders drawn up to your ears waiting for the other shoe to drop.
The life force that flowed between you and your beloved seems to be reconnected. You can feel their presence, and a renewed sense of strength to persevere can be felt coursing through your entire body. You begin to remember not only all you lost, but now can recall all you have been given, and all you have to live for.
This is when the wonderful, glorious switch happens, when you begin to move from being in a constant state of griefing to being called to live in gratitude.
Through the Mercy of God, we are reminded, we not only were given the gift of true love, but we had the privilege to be chosen to stand beside our spouse until they reached the other side.
We were given the gift of standing on Holy Ground with our spouse as they made it back Home.
The ultimate gift a spouse can give to the other is pray them back home.
The gift that keeps on giving is our continuous prayers for their soul, and knowing they continue to pray for us
When we make the switch, the love we shared with them will indeed be felt more deeply than ever before.
This is the Mercy of God. This ability to feel that spousal love alive and well in our hearts. A Love that reaches across the boundaries of Heaven and earth, and if we are blessed with children rwe remember that love is multiplied and continues for years to come, all because we dared to put our heart out there.
My gift to anyone reading this, and especially if you have lost a spouse, a child, a parent or even a very close friend is to hang on to your Faith.
I can attest the heartache will come and go because you loved so completely. Its precious gift to have been loved and to have love another just as deeply.
Just remember; grief loses its grip on our hearts, minds and souls, when we are able to move forward to see how very blessed we have been.
The switch to being Grateful we were loved for who we are.
Prayers Galore ❤
Written by, Deanna G. DeBondt
August 17, 2023
3:43am
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